Colleen's Blog

If you feel the need to always be right raise your hand.  If you feel the need to find confirmation in your "rightness" by debating your point endlessly raise your other hand.  If you frequently end your sentences with the word "right?" take a bow.

Do you get a charge when someone says to you "I agree with your statement" or "glad you made that point?"  And by charge, I mean a kind of feeling that's juicy but with an edge to it. 

I'm famous for this behavior.  I mean we're talking fully developed MO.  If they gave out certificates for this, mine would read "Master at Gotta be Right."   Somehow the need for control carries the need to be right.  A wonderful teacher posed this question to me a few years ago "Do you want to be free, or do you want to be right?"  Since then, I've heightened my awareness around my need to be right and the burden that comes with it.  And by golly, it's a weight that I've dragged around too long.

Cause instead, I'd rather be free.  Free from the charge of pushing my agenda.  Free to be open to more possibilities than just my little mind can hold.  Free from rigidity.  There is a fearlessness around being "free" while being right carries and energy of fearfulness.  What do you think?